Once Divorce Begins, Don't Let Your Spouse Press Your Buttons

Once the divorce process begins, it is not out of the ordinary for litigants to make comments with the hopes of intimidating, upsetting, or causing stress for each other. Additionally, not only is it not uncommon, but it's really easy - after all, think about it: because of the close relationship, and how well each of you knows each other, it's a simple talk knowing which remarks to make that will cause the maximum response on the intended "victim."

The typical remarks we hear about (and subsequently explain to our clients in the attempt to calm their worries) include:

"I'm going to drag the case on forever. By the time we're done, you'll have nothing - and I'll see to it that it ends-up that way!"

"I've got the best lawyer in town. He (or she) is going to crush your lawyer."

"Your lawyer is a well-known crook. He (or she) is only dragging this out in order to get money that should be going to the kids."

"My lawyer knows all of the judges. There's no way that you'll get a good result - give up now!"

"I'm going to get custody of the children, move, and you'll never see them again...mark my words."

"I'm going to tell the children the real truth about this divorce and they'll learn who you really are."

"You can't trust the lawyers - they're all friendly with each other and they're taking our money."

It is often said that retaining a Divorce Dream Team goes a long way in building a strong case in court, and our attorneys will tell you how there is rarely any basis for these comments. Their only purpose is to provoke the opposition. Don't live with needless emotional stress and anxiety. Ignore your soon-to-be ex-spouse, recognize the motivation behind his (or her) comments, and focus on the divorce issues that matter.

Learn more by listening to our Divorce Seminars or reading about how to deal with your ex-spouse.